Simply Nandini

Simply Nandini

Monday, January 28, 2008

Are you single .. or Mingle..???

R u single or mingle..??? You must have came across this question a lot of time, so, I have ('',)? 

Now-a-days, whenever I talk to my any friend after a long time, I have always come across this question. However, I have never able to decipher the psychology behind this question and my answer "single" put them in a state of shock. Now, They think my life has no fun, no enjoyment and I am living dull, mundane and boring life. Alas..!! Moreover, wherever I go, all I can see is lot of young couple coochie-cooing irrespective of the fact that they are sitting in public place with hundreds' eyes on them. Holding hands while roaming in a mall or shopping complex, looking into each others' eyes over a cup of coffee or even sometimes, I have got the chance to watch two movies simultaneously in a cinema hall (needless to mention that the 2nd one  is "A" grade movie, :-)

Especially, on 14th February, it seems like couples have got the legal permission to coochie-coo in public places, keeping all sharam ke parde aside.
Some couple even managed to find a small private place to coochie-coo in crowded bus. Do I need to mention about mention about parks, malls or movie halls, which are exceptionally crowded on that day. I think, Government should declare national holiday on 14th Feb.
In such prevailing scenario, if you don’t have a partner then you criminal and all your hooked friends and cousins gives you a strange look. Some even outcast you considering you as good for nothing fellow. Now, it seems to me that having a partner or boyfriend is mandatory part of our system. Also, if I won’t follow it, I will be ostracized. At times, I also feel that it is competition to make a partner (read boyfriend/ girl friend) show you status symbol (to survive in this society). I still remember, during my Internship days, I met a girl, who is 2 years younger to me and was proudly telling stories about her 11th boy friend and all her past experiences with other 10 boy friends.
However, I am not in strong support of this system as I feel one can enjoy his or her single hood much better than ones, who are hooked. One of the obvious advantages of single hood is to flirt with other boys or girls and no nagging in your life. You don’t have to give you daily chart of engagement to anyone. Also, you get ample of time to spend with yourself listening to music, reading novel or may be watching movie on laptop. You don’t have to spend long hours on phone, especially late night calls.
Lastly, I am not denying that one needs a shoulder to cry but it could be a warm friend also. Even having a partner does not necessitate showing your love or care for that person to the world.
May be, it is one of the side- effects of this valentine culture.
Spread love..!! Spread joy..!! Enjoy life!! :)

3 comments:

Jayasri said...

I lost the purpose...So you are pro-courtship or against courtship or against Valentine's day or unable to face the anxieties of your friends who are so far unaware of your Commitment status?

Nandini Bhalla said...

Niether i am against any courtship nor have any anxiety...
but i m just trying to figuring it out the this growing culture of valentine and its side-effects too.. which i am not able to decipher it yet... :)

Anonymous said...

hmm ... well since u asked me to be reallie honest (i wonder y do u think all da compliments i payed u earlier wsnt honest enuff ) :) well i must say it ws reallie gud effort ...i njoyed reading it ...probably bcoz i cud realte wid wateva u wrote ..i too generally encounter ppl asking me if m single ...n yeah pda puts me off too ...sumtimes i notice even elderly couple holding hands n walkin ...it dosent luk bad at all. ..one does need companion to make all walks of life more beautiful ...but sometimes when u c ppl sitting at sum corner i mean it actually becomes embarrasssing ,.. i remeber i once went wid my mom for a movie n i ws blaming myself fr insisting on last row hehee!! theres no harm in being wid sumone u reallie care for n no harm in being in love but ofcourse when u r at public places , one shud be mature enuff n dignified ...keep writin :) looking fwd to ur next post